BECOMING THE MOTHER YOUR CHILD NEEDS

NOTE - THIS PROGRAM IS CURRENTLY ON HOLD

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Make sense of anger and aggression and build your capacity to support your child from a place of connection, safety and coregulation - to feel SAFE, SEEN, SOOTHED and SECURE.

Is your child expressing a LOT of anger, frustration and aggression? Are you also frustrated, angry and unable to support your child in the way you want to?  

Join this 6 week parenting course and support group for mothers and carers to understand anger, big feelings and support yourself so that you can BECOME THE MOTHER YOUR CHILD NEEDS.

When our kids are struggling with intense feelings, most of us want to remain patient, calm and in control. But the truth is, feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, even enraged by our childrens’ upsets, anger and conflict is more common than we realise. Being a mother is hard enough in our modern world and when anger and aggression are present, we can feel triggered in ways that we were not prepared for. Kids don’t come with a handbook so what can we do to ensure more connection (and our sanity!)?

BECOMING is an online LIVE support program designed to build your understanding of the emotions of anger, aggression and frustration, make sense of their nervous system responses and yours, build compassion for your child, see their behaviour as a signal and lean into their feelings and needs with empathy. And to start doing the same for yourself - because it’s your presence, understanding and safety that they need the most. This is the growth journey that almost every parent needs - but many aren’t willing to do.

“Alita’s work and the space she facilitates is just pure magic. Working with her in this course has been truly incredible. The information was thorough and practical and was delivered in a safe, supportive and loving group of like-minded mums. I’m so grateful to have had the opportunity to invest in myself and my parenting and won’t hesitate to sing her praises or sign up for more courses in the future! Thank you, from the bottom of my heart xx” -

KATIE F, MUM OF 2

EXPLORATION OF ANGER, BEHAVIOURS AND FEELINGS

BECOMING will help you build your capacity to be a more connected parent through education, the magic of story sharing and community. You will feel less alone. You will soften guilt and shame and know that your feelings make sense. And you will learn to trust that your child isn’t broken - and neither are you. 

Over the space of 6 weeks we will explore:

  1. SOFTEN - make sense of anger, frustration, rage and aggression and build tools to support yourself and your children through intense feelings

  2. SAFE - making sense of nervous system science, sensitivities and creating safety in your home when there are meltdowns and aggression

  3. SEEN - understanding developing brains, seeing beneath behaviours, and building skills to help your child feel seen - listen, play, delight and noticing the good in them

  4. SENSORY - understanding overstimulation, sensory calming tools and creating felt safety through the sensory system

  5. SOOTHED - the importance of holding space for feelings, riding storms of meltdowns, naming feelings and needs, holistic supports

  6. SECURE - healing attachment wounds, building attachment to anger, yourself AND your kids, making repairs and foundations of connection.

FACILITATOR: Alita Blanchard, Parent Coach, Holistic Counsellor (in the making) and Mother of 4 boys

Having experienced many layers of anger in my home - my own and my kids - I have had to build tools for nervous system care and self compassion so that I could BECOME the be the parent I wanted to be. I learned to listen to tears, tantrums, ride the storms of meltdowns and support my children through hard seasons of aggression and anxiety without using fear, punishment and shame. 

I am committed to changing the paradigm of parenting to one that is based on connection, safety and protecting children from harm.

With a high value on growth, I am always expanding my study of trauma, somatic and sensory therapy, aggression, nutrition, gut health, emotional release, nervous system and play. As a highly sensitive person (HSP) myself and raising sensitive, big feeling kids in a world that doesn’t prioritise the mental and emotional wellbeing of children OR their parents, I am so passionate about supporting mothers to be the safest person for their children.  

“Undertaking the parent coaching course with Alita has been the single best decision and investment for myself, my children and my family! The growth I’ve felt as a mother and the shift I've seen in my children, in such a short time has been incredible. The course content is fascinating and the awareness I’ve developed around myself and my parenting has giving me confidence and acceptance of my current ability, and also for what lies ahead.

Alita has been raw, honest and beautifully empathetic throughout the journey. She opens space for many shameful, complex feelings and topics around parenting. Alita is a wealth of knowledge in this area, always learning, sharing and supporting. It really has changed me, in the very best way.” - SARA E, MUM OF 4

INCLUSIONS AND DATES

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6 x weekly 2 hour Education and Coaching Circles  via Zoom -

  • 2 x bonus masterclasses  -  All recorded. 

    • EMILY BREWER, Emotional Release Practitioner - Making Sense of Anger

    • ABBEY GIBSON, Women’s Therapist, Self compassion and Softening Expectations 

  • 3 x workbooks  -  Exploring Anger and Aggression, Making sense of Nervous System Science and Emotional intelligence. 

  • BONUS: Lifetime access to the 12 module Transformational Parenting Course from Jai Institute for Parenting

  • Private Facebook for content and replays and Whatsapp chat for sharing

  • Listening partnerships set up for ongoing support for those interested

  • All calls recorded and replays sent after session (you do NOT need to attend live)

LEARNING WILL INCLUDE:

  •  - make sense of anger and frustration

    - soften your expectations and perfectionism

     - healthy aggression practices to release frustration

     - why “patient and calm” feels out of reach

    - self compassion is critical 

    - why shame makes everything worse

    - feelings need to move - tears, meltdowns, rage, movement, play

  • - building SELF regulation for YOU  - fight flight freeze insights / ANCHOR

     - coregulation skills - its a practice, not a perfect / HARBOR

     - Sensitive nervous systems 

     - somatic tools for nervous system care

     - routines and rhythms help build sense of safety

     - meltdowns and aggression: SAFETY FIRST 

  •  - brains are growing, not all brains are the same (nuance and neurodiversity)

     - see beneath their behaviours (unmet needs, lack felt safety) 

    -  active listening and validation of children feelings

     - delight in your child

     - seeing your child’s gifts, genius, strengths and qualities

  •  - sensory overwhelm and overstimulation

     - creating safety through the sensory system

     - every child and human is unique - explore sensory calming tools

     - you are the most powerful “tool”

     - touch, sight, sound, taste, smell and more

     - supporting a stressed child

  •  - the power of healing tears and tantrums

     - allowing emotional release to happen

     - riding the storm of meltdowns

     - naming YOUR feelings and needs

     - vulnerability is strength

     - when sensitive kids get STUCK in feelings

     - holistic focus (food, movement, nature, screen, sleep)

     - the importance of SLEEP

  •  - importance of secure attachment for YOU

     - building secure attachment to yourself and your anger

     - repairing disconnection: self empathy first

     - foundations  - listen, limits, listen, play, special time, release

“Alita listens to mothers with an open heart, and with deep empathy. She is honest about the hardest days of parenting, through the most difficult seasons. I am so glad that I came across her when I did - I had a baby and a toddler and was working in a stressful job through lockdowns. Since I first started working with Alita, I am a more confident and self aware parent. I am kinder to myself. I have learnt the value of self compassion. I have a much greater awareness of my nervous system, and this helps me on a daily basis. I am less reactive, more regulated & more able to hold space for my children’s feelings.

I wish that any mother who struggles with the chaos & emotions of motherhood had the gift of working with someone just like Alita.” - RAY J, MUM OF 2

INVEST IN YOUR GROWTH

We invest in our career education, weddings, baby nursery decor, home renovations, clothing, holidays and adventures and yet very rarely do parents choose to invest in their parenting journey. Yet parenting and raising your children is likely the most important role you will ever have. This is an investment in your relationship with your children, their emotional wellbeing, your parenting and your own personal growth. 

Pay in full - $660 AUD

Payment plans available: $260 x 3 fortnights / $130 x 6 weeks 

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“I have just completed the very powerful, transformative and informative ‘BECOMING the Mother Your Child Needs’ course and would absolutely recommend it or any other work with Alita, if you have the opportunity! Alita holds a very safe and supportive container and shares so much incredible wisdom and resources from her lived experience and integrated learning, and delivers it in a way that is easy to understand and implement. I have already experienced profound changes in the way I am able to be with and support my son, who has some very tricky behaviours, with more presence, compassion and calm.” - Amy C, MUM OF 1

KIND WORDS FROM PREVIOUS PARTICIPANTS  

This has been the most constructive 3-week circle group I have ever been part of. Alita is highly knowledgeable - and knows what she’s talking about as she shared about her own journey of struggle, grief, guilt in motherhood. I felt beyond validated at any given time and it’s been a safe space for me. So many takeaways, useful tools that I’m able to actively use in my own journey of motherhood. Thanks Alita, you are the best. — NB

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Soothed was just what I didn’t know I needed. It was life changing for me and no doubt the beginning of an awareness and learning for me around self compassion and nervous system regulation in particular. Alita created a setting and vibe where I felt comfortable to be vulnerable and real with complete strangers who quickly became more than that. Be brave, sign up! —Anon.

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Soothed Mothers Circle has been so nurturing for me. I have been stuck in quite a negative place, but the vulnerability and compassion showed by Alita and all the other mothers has lifted my spirit. I wasn’t expecting such a positive outcome, but my whole mindset on my motherhood has changed. I now look for the glimmers every day, and appreciating so much more in my life. I am using tools learnt through this to help self regulate and to help my children with their big emotions. I feel I have made connections with my listening partners and am overall so grateful for this wonderful experience. Thank you Alita. — BK

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Becoming was such a healing space for me as a mum to a sensitive little boy with big feelings.I found so much strength and connection in listening to others who are walking through a similar journey. Alita has a wealth of knowledge and pulls together the many facets of parenting and self growth knitting together a wholistic approach. The foundations laid throughout this coaching have carved out a path forward for our family but without pressure or perfectionism. So very thankful to have been in this space. — Jasmin K

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Alita is a very generous, grounded, and knowledgeable parenting coach. During the programme I felt seen, heard and understood. I learnt so much about myself, how to be with myself and my children in difficult moments and to have compassion for myself. Alita offers so much wisdom and knowledge and I loved learning with her. I feel so grateful to be able to bring what I learnt into my life with my children. It has been life changing and I continue to see shifts in myself. This continues to ripple out in many beautiful ways bringing deeper love, connection, compassion for myself, with my children and family. - Cara W

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Alita - thank you from the bottom of my heart for your generosity with sharing your wisdom and empathy through the Soothed Mothers Circle. You are a master at holding space and I felt so supported and seen by you and the other amazing women who participated. I took so much from this experience and feel it's really just the start of my journey, but I already feel more grounded, anchored, and able to stay regulated through the daily chaos - Nicky

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Alita is a beautifully supportive space holder. Her circles were a supportive balance of information and connection and sharing. The Soothed program was nourishing and so validating of the challenging pieces of parenthood. Alita was so present and very generous with her time and resources. — Andy

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Alita is an exhausted, frazzled and confused parents dream. She is like a big warm hug wrapped around you, reassuring you that you are good enough, and that she is there to help you. You can see Alita puts her heart and soul into her work. She offers more time, care and resources to her clients than I have ever experienced. There is no ego, no pride, no financial motivation in anything that she does. Alita just genuinely wants to help mums become happier and more connected parents. I could listen to her all day and I wish I had her in my handbag so I could talk to her whenever I needed. Thank you Alita. We will definitely work together again I'm sure :) - Lana T

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